Ya know when you are a kid and your mom tells you that she can't wait til you have kids to understand, or how she warns you that when you have kids she hopes that they will give it to you 10 times worse than what you gave to her. Man was it ever thrown at me like 400 times over. I have 4 kids and I love them to death and would do anything for them, but they can be so very tiring on a daily basis. My oldest, Kaleb who is 12, has aspergers, and O.D.D. (oppositional defiant disorder), Adhd, and they say he has bipolar but I am not sure he is at an age where he can be properly diagnosed with it so usually we just don't say anything about the bipolar especially since all the characteristics of bipolar fall under his Asperger diagnosis. He alone does fine most of the time, just don't ask him to do any chores or homework (he is home schooled) He expects us to just let him sit around and play video games or watch TV all day. I love the kid but I am just not sure how to get through to him sometimes. His aspergers causes all kinds of social issues which in some cases limits the amount of outings we can go on, he doesn't do well in really crowded places or really loud places he also can't go to places with bright lights but hates the dark too. There are even particular noises that hurt his ears, ya know those holographic things like puzzles or cups or pictures and that cool noise it makes when you scratch on it, well he can hear it a mile away and it huts him so bad I have seen him with his fingers in his ears and falling to his knees it was really causing that much pain. He doesn't get along with a lot of people. He can easily get into fights with people over nothing. I personally can ask him to do his chores and he blows up or he breaks down. he refuses to talk or he mumbles grumpily under his breath to where you can't understand what he says. And it is not as if I am asking him to do anything new or harder than usual. But if it isn't what he wants to do then he just wont do it. Now don't get me wrong love this kid even through all of his eccentric personalities, I am just trying to give you an idea of what we go through on a daily basis. So I try my hardest to make things easier for him and help him every step of the way, try to help him understand why he acts the way he does or understand why he says things that he can't control saying sometimes. And that is just Kaleb...
I will get around to explaining the rest of them but Kaleb was just getting on my nerves when I started this, then half way through the child comes in my room and says mom ya wanna watch M.A.S.H. with me. It is amazing the way he can be sometimes it is almost like a woman either pregnant or going through menopause. He is a great kid though and I love him dearly.
Well gotta go teach history for a bit when I come back I will explain about my other 3 kids and then maybe you will understand the 400 times worse.
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